This week I traveled to Chicago for work alone. I love to travel more then almost anything so whether for work or pleasure I am going to have a good time!
So many people in my life that I talk to say things like aren’t you scared to travel alone? Don’t you worry what people think when you’re sitting at a table eating alone? Don’t you get lonely? How can you have fun by yourself. Used to I would thought the same things but after going somewhere and getting out and experiencing life alone it’s actually fantastic.
I’ve never been one to care what people think about me and over the last year learning to love myself more has really made it easier to enjoy myself wherever I go. My happiness doesn’t depend on someone else.
The biggest question is how do you do all those things and not have anxiety? Well there’s a very simple answer to that. I DO!! I do have anxiety about flying and about being away from home. I have anxiety in crowds, I have anxiety when I don’t know places and have to figure out where to go and how to get around! However the trick to all of this is you just have to do it! Make yourself try to overcome them. What good is it letting anxiety control you and you not living while you can?
The worst scenario is you have a panic attack and have to stop what you’re doing and go back to your comfortable spot but if you don’t try in the first place how will you ever know what you might actually enjoy or what places yours actually comfortable.
This week while in Chicago I went to the Skydeck. It’s 103 stories up in a building and you step onto a ledge glass box and can see for many miles and look straight down. I had told someone earlier this week I would never do that! But as I sat in my room looking into things to do I kept coming across it. I thought to myself you know what I will not let fear control me so I grabbed a ride over all alone and took the maze through the Sears Tower (now Willis Tower) and up 103 stories to the most amazing view I had ever experienced in my life. It was every bit worth the $25! It actually didn’t cause me any anxiety and I would do it all over again.
I also went the the Chicago Cubs game with thousands of people there and then I went in and sat down to eat dinner all alone. I did have anxiety at the Cubs game from all the people but once I got situated I started to calm down and I had a wonderful time.
Chicago is in the top 10 for murders in the USA and I’m just a country girl exploring the city world alone! If I can do it, so can you! So get out there and enjoy life ALONE if you have to. There’s no reason to let your anxiety control you and if you can enjoy life alone you will surely be able to enjoy it with others in your life.