Making Memories

Today most everyone has some kind of social media. It is great in so many ways and not in others but I do love keeping up with my family that lives away and my favorite part is the memories it shows me from “X” amount of years ago.

I didn’t realize how much things have changed in as little as three years. This morning a picture of me decorating the Christmas tree with my kids popped up. They looked so little. How in three years did they grow to be so mature and nearly adults?! Who knew going from 14 to 17 and 10 to 13 would be such a huge difference.

I wish I knew then what I knew now. Wish I had cherished the times even more then I did. I wanna go back and hold them a little more and let them know life isn’t always perfect but together we will always get through things.

If you still have small kids don’t rush them to grow up, let them be kids a little while longer. Takes lots of pictures, give lots of hugs and I love yous. You will look back in a few years and it will all be a memory. One you never want to forget.

It's Been Awhile

The last few months feel like I jumped on a train and it took off and we haven’t made any stops yet. So many things have happened and once again I made it through another of lifes chapters. It is almost time to close this chapter and start writing a brand new one that I am excited for.

Since my last post in September I have been on a mini trip to NOLA then on a cruise, my son turned 17, spent sometime in Nashville, did some Halloween stuff (because it is my favorite time of year), I sold my house, started dating someone new and lost my grandpa.

I think this has been one of the most challenging chapters I’ve had in such a short period but there has also been many good things come out of this chapter too. I moved out of my house mid October. The housing market where I live has been an extreme challenge. I have spent the last 2 months looking for a house. I have looked at close to 50 houses, put in nearly 10 offers on houses, and none of them were working out. Someone always had a better offer or the sellers would try to get the buyers in a bidding war or something random would happen and things would fall through for me. I was getting very discouraged and tired of living out of my suitcase. So what did I do. I prayed.

I have been raised in church my entire life but as an adult I don’t go to church and do things like I was raised. One day it hit me. I need to pray about whats going on in my life so I did. I prayed and prayed and all of the sudden things started falling into place y’all! I couldn’t believe the way things happened.

I had started talking to a guy back the first of September. Just something causal you could say. We neither wanted a relationship and wasn’t looking for anything serious. As time went on I started to develop feelings for him but I never told him how I felt. I just included this relationship in with my prayers and carried on. November 20th he asked me if I would be interested in dating exclusively and exactly one week later I had an offer accepted on a house. Not just any house BUT a house that could be big enough for him and his kids if things ever develop that far…. None of the other houses I had looked at would have had enough room for all of us! Maybe this is why none of the other ones worked out?! They just accepted my offer, no negotiations, and the home inspection went great! I couldn’t believe how things happened. I really feel like God did his thing in this situation! I just had to ask him.

Next week I close on my new house and start a new chapter. I am off work for two weeks and wont even have to miss any work to move and get settled in! Although there was plenty anxiety the last few months I am at peace now and feel like the train is slowing and all the pieces are finally coming together! Enjoy a few pics of the journey!

Traveling Alone with Anxiety

This week I traveled to Chicago for work alone. I love to travel more then almost anything so whether for work or pleasure I am going to have a good time!

So many people in my life that I talk to say things like aren’t you scared to travel alone? Don’t you worry what people think when you’re sitting at a table eating alone? Don’t you get lonely? How can you have fun by yourself. Used to I would thought the same things but after going somewhere and getting out and experiencing life alone it’s actually fantastic.

I’ve never been one to care what people think about me and over the last year learning to love myself more has really made it easier to enjoy myself wherever I go. My happiness doesn’t depend on someone else.

The biggest question is how do you do all those things and not have anxiety? Well there’s a very simple answer to that. I DO!! I do have anxiety about flying and about being away from home. I have anxiety in crowds, I have anxiety when I don’t know places and have to figure out where to go and how to get around! However the trick to all of this is you just have to do it! Make yourself try to overcome them. What good is it letting anxiety control you and you not living while you can?

The worst scenario is you have a panic attack and have to stop what you’re doing and go back to your comfortable spot but if you don’t try in the first place how will you ever know what you might actually enjoy or what places yours actually comfortable.

This week while in Chicago I went to the Skydeck. It’s 103 stories up in a building and you step onto a ledge glass box and can see for many miles and look straight down. I had told someone earlier this week I would never do that! But as I sat in my room looking into things to do I kept coming across it. I thought to myself you know what I will not let fear control me so I grabbed a ride over all alone and took the maze through the Sears Tower (now Willis Tower) and up 103 stories to the most amazing view I had ever experienced in my life. It was every bit worth the $25! It actually didn’t cause me any anxiety and I would do it all over again.

I also went the the Chicago Cubs game with thousands of people there and then I went in and sat down to eat dinner all alone. I did have anxiety at the Cubs game from all the people but once I got situated I started to calm down and I had a wonderful time.

Chicago is in the top 10 for murders in the USA and I’m just a country girl exploring the city world alone! If I can do it, so can you! So get out there and enjoy life ALONE if you have to. There’s no reason to let your anxiety control you and if you can enjoy life alone you will surely be able to enjoy it with others in your life.

We Remember

18 years ago and it still haunts us. We remember one of the most tragic events in American History today.

We always use the phrase where were you on September 11, 2001? I believe most of us who were old enough to remember do still remember. I was at high school in English class. (I wish I had paid more attention back then so I could be a better blogger today haha!)

I remember how it felt like all of the American people came together that day, that month, and the months after. It would be amazing if we could have a world like that without a tragic event happening.

I am still so thankful for all of the emergency workers that braved and risked their lives that day. Yes, so many lives were lost but if it hadn’t been for them it would have been even more.

Last year I took my kids to the 9/11 memorial and museum. I had been a few years back before the museum was open. We were all in shock at how much was recovered from the wreckage. What an eye opening and incredible museum. I wish we had all day to stay there and read and look at everything. We will have to make another trip back someday. If you have never been I highly recommend taking a trip. It is worth every penny.

I would also like to remind everyone no matter what your beliefs are that happened that day, it was still a terrible tragedy for the American people and many families. Please be respectful today and take time to remember.

Food for Thought

I read something earlier that hit me hard. It said “When you can tell your story and it doesn’t make you cry that’s when you know you are healed.” I don’t know who wrote it to give them credit where credit is due.

It makes me think about myself, my story.

I think I am healed some days. Some days I don’t. Some parts of my story make me cry still and some don’t so maybe I’m healed from them.

What I do know is I am working on me everyday. I want to be the best version of me so I can be the best for my kids and eventually someone else one day.

I encourage everyone to learn to love and respect yourself a little more everyday and in the words of my friend Lori find happiness everyday no matter what… do something that makes YOU happy!

Picture is of me and Dr Evil from a horror convention I attended a couple weeks ago. Halloween/horror makes me happy 😊

Finding Myself

I am a giver, a problem solver. It’s who I am. I wanna fix people no matter how much it breaks me. I end up losing myself because I put everything I am into other people and their problems.

This last year has been so challenging and complicated…. it has changed me.

I am focusing on myself. I am going to fix me. I am putting myself and my children first. I am finding happiness.

I will prevail. I will be stronger. I will not fail. I will love myself more. I will not tolerate bullshit. I will show this world it can not break me.

I have found myself! She is strong! She is fierce!

The Over Thinker

In my experience with anxiety it causes me to over think and over analyze every detail of life.

Lately I have been thinking about sending my ex husband an apology text. I’m not wanting him back or anything of that nature but I have been doing a lot of thinking about myself and I feel like I need to apologize. Kind of feel like righting my wrongs lately.

We separated in August 2018 and our divorce was final in January 2019. I don’t know if it’s because it’s almost been a year and that has been causing me to think about everything or if it’s my new relationship slipping through my fingers making me wish I had done some things differently in my marriage and maybe we would have still been together. Whatever the reason it’s weighing on my mind a lot and I’m not really sure what to do.

Part of me knows it won’t make a difference so why waste my time but the other part of me thinks maybe he would appreciate it and I might feel better getting it out there.

This is the part of anxiety that gets so hard when your mind goes back and forth and you don’t know what to do and it consumes every thought no matter if it’s morning, midday, or night my mind doesn’t stop.

Like a runaway train with a destination of nowhere.